Tag: advice

How to become better

Often times people quit doing things because they aren’t seeing the results they wanted. I see this all the time with people who commit to losing weight, working harder, or just trying to motivate themselves to do better. I would say 90% people quit, its because they et unrealistic goals and get upset when they haven’t achieved them. This mindset results in failure because people put unrealistic demands on themselves.

My advice is to judge success based on progress not goals. Think in the mindset of “I’m in the process of getting to where I want to be.” rather than “I’m not where I thought I’d be.” The difference doesn’t sound like much, but these two measurements can be the difference between success and failure. A true measure of success is working to become better and better. The most successful people didn’t stop when they got to where they wanted. They kept pushing to keep on the road to success.

In order to achieve, we must recognize that striving to improve and working harder each day is just as important as the results you wish to attain. In any/ all aspects of life, consistency is the key to success. Don’t stop after hitting your goal, make a new one that makes you even better than before.

I can use my last post about health as an example. I used to be overweight and unhealthy as a child. I recognized that i wasn’t healthy and fixed the problem. As a result, I feel better and have more energy. I achieved the goal I set out to accomplish. BUT, I didn’t stop there. I work actively everyday to make sure I continue to live health consciously. I try to learn more about nutrition to make my diet more beneficial for my body and my workouts more effective. Sure, I could have quit while I was ahead but then I would have stoped growing. I would have been better off than where I started but not actively growing.

In short, measure your success by the path you are on not the results that you have/ don’t have. Success isn’t a one time thing like many of us think. It is a process of growing and becoming better and better. Don’t give up because you don’t think you are getting results. Failing while trying to succeed is growing. Failing because you gave up is quitting.

Independence

Arguably my favorite part of college is being alone. By this, I don’t mean sitting alone and not talking to anyone (although that can be nice sometimes too). I am talking about the ability to do things alone. I like having the option to go to class alone, or go out to activities alone. In the past, activities were dictated around my friends schedules and whenever we could all been the same place at the same time. It’s nice to be able to do things on my own time and not have to worry about other peoples conflicts.

At home, whenever I wanted to go somewhere or do something I would ask my parents first, then coordinate when and where with my friends. This planning caused for a lot of conflicts and missing out on stuff because I was so concerned about others affairs. Now, If i wanna go somewhere, I go. If I wanna do something, I do it. Most importantly, if I don’t want to do something, I don’t have to. I love this freedom and enjoy the ability to do things on my term.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my home in Ellicott City and I love my family and friends there. But, I also love my college life and the independence it offers me. College is truly what you make of it. I enjoy the freedom to live on my own and the endless options I have for activities, events, and how to spend my free time.

I think college is really where the strong are separated from the weak. Those who want to succeed in school, will do it and will enjoy doing it. On the other hand, kids who come to school to party and drink, end up failing and sometimes dropping out. I get the partying is part of the fun but at the end of the day, I am here to learn and to be set up for success. My education will always come first and everything else can fit around this.

The future of the presidency

If this election has taught us anything, it is that little to nothing can be hidden or kept from the public. With the increasing technology and ability for us to access online documents and retrieve “hidden” information. In the future, this will just get easier and easier. Lives will become more transparent and no one will be safe from public scrutiny. I fear in the future, no one will seem “qualified” to be president because we will know every minute detail of their life.

This knowledge will take the presidency of its pedestal and take the picture perfect image of a presidency away. Our knowledge will be our greatest weakness and create an environment where it is much too hard to find any single being qualified to lead the Country.

These thoughts make me wonder if we will ever be able to elect a president like we did in the past. Previously, presidents have been viewed as heroes, icons, and leaders but as we gain the ability to see into their personal lives, they become human and much more like us. I really don’t know what this means for our future elections; but from what i can tell, it can’t be good. I just hope we can learn that everyone has flaws and accept a candidate based on their morals, qualifications and beliefs rather than their private lives and personalities. I think your character and what you don can speak a lot about who you are and what you stand for but the mistakes you make behind the scenes should not determine who you are. I hope in the future we can make this distinction and use technology to our betterment rather than our demise.

 

 

When life gives you lemons…

Sometimes in life, shitty things happen. This is inevitable, and eventually something bad will happen to every one. When these bad things happen, some times theres nothing you can do to fix it and that is okay.

The common saying is, “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” It’s a great phrase. Basically meaning turn a bad situation into a good one. In theory, this is great but a lot of times, the lemons are so sour that there is no way to turn it into lemonade.  I think a more realistic phrase would be, “When life gives you rotten sorry excuses for lemons, turn them into something that starts to taste like mediocre lemonade.” By this I mean take a bad situation and figure out how you will grow because of it. The majority of the time, a bad situation can’t be spun into a good one. The good news is, bad situations always teach us something or give us an opportunity to grow.

Next time something bad happens, sit back and reflect how this makes you a stronger rather than mope and be upset about it. Rather than roll with the punches, absorb the blow and figure out how to dodge the next one. Life is full of good and bad things. The bad things can’t turn into good things, often times. Take the bad things and learn from them.

Be respectful

Three evenings a week, I work as a “Lehigh Liner” as a part time job. Basically a liner is a telemarketer but instead of trying to sell stuff over the phone, we ask for donations to Lehigh and various organizations existing at Lehigh. We focus our efforts on alumni and parents of students. Most nights, I am lucky to have three or four worthwhile conversations, the rest are no answers, not available, or hang up before we have time to talk.

As a student, I enjoy calling alumni because I like to hear what kind of success people have gotten after attending Lehigh and any stories/ advice they have about Lehigh. Unfortunately, oftentimes people are incredibly rude over the phone and really make us feel bad for calling them. I understand that some people have no desire to donate to Lehigh (which is fine), but I still appreciate a good conversation or politeness when declining to speak with me.

Because I now make calls to strangers, I have a newfound respect for others that do it as well. Rather than being rude to them, I will now politely decline their offer or at least listen to what they have to say. I think it is important we all try to do this. It’s important to understand people make these calls because it is their job. They aren’t doing it because they want to annoy you and waste time. Making phone calls is a job for a lot of people and we should try and respect that they are working hard and working legally to make money. So instead of being rude to them, just let them say their spiel and be respectful.

Making Connections that matter

In College, we (students) are given so many opportunities to network and meet new people. A lot of us don’t use the occasions. Seminars and lectures are offered almost daily that anyone can attend and, they’re free. A lot of these seminars are aimed at upperclassmen looking to get jobs and internships once they finish school. Career expos and resume seminars are meant to help these students land good jobs outside of Lehigh. These events often provide useful information and are meant to help students succeed.

As a freshman, these event aren’t targeted towards me but I still go to what ever ones I can (as long as my schedule allows). Yesterday I went to a seminar called “ethics of a job offer”. It was about how to negotiate, accept and handle job offers that a firm may offer you. The speaker gave tips on how to interview, when to accept, and how to know if a job is right for you. Being a first-year student here, I haven’t gotten any job offers and probably won’t for the next 2 or 3 years. Still, I found this information useful and I am really glad I went. It gave me a chance to meet professors I might have in the future and speak with upperclassmen who are also in the business school. Through this seminar, I was able to get my name out there so  when I do start looking for jobs, I will have a competitive edge over other students in my class.

What I am trying to get at here, is that it’s important to make an effort to help your future self. Even though I may not use the skills I learned now, My future self will be glad i spent time going to these things. Maybe, when I do start interviewing, some one will recognize my name and recognize meeting me a couple of years before (It is hard to forget the fish-out-of-water when there is one freshman among hundreds of seniors at a career expo). The connections I may make could prove to be very useful in the future.

Basically, there is no negative outcome of me going to these events. In the future, I’m not gonna think, “Damn, I wish I hadn’t spent all that time meeting professionals and learning about topics that pertain to my major.” That won’t happen. The worst possible outcome is I don’t use the connections in the future. I will still be glad I made them and learned from these lectures because Its good practice for when I do start looking for a job.

Even for those not in school, this advice can help you too. Try to go to social events at your job or community because it could be really beneficial for you. As an introvert, I would rather be alone reading a book or playing a video game, but I recognize the benefits of attending these events and I always end up learning something I didn’t know before.